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I decided when my son was 1 and a half it was time to be potty trained. I did a lot of research to find out what worked for others.  I than applied the best techniques i could find and added a few of my own.

First thing first if your child is afraid of the toilet or not, face him inward so he is “riding” the toilet.  He or she will feel more secure that they will not fall into the toilet seeing they are holding on to the back.  This little technique with out a doubt is what made potty training such a breeze.

Practice going to the bathroom letting them get on the toilet by themselves. Always have a stool next to the toilet to make it easier.  When they go to the bathroom reward them with bubble time! 

Hence they are actually cleaning there hands with out knowing it.  If you have a few cents to spare don’t give them a deadline as to how fast bubble time must be.  instead let them play in the sink as long as they want and if they get drenched it is okay.  If they soak the floor with water it is okay.  Remember we are working on the bigger picture.  Eventually your child will look forward to using the bathroom because of bubble time. (Regular soap bars don’t make sufficient bubbles so get the kind that comes in a bottle that you press down on.)

Sometimes things started well but than your child might have a few accidents.  Express its okay to have accidents your not mad at them but save there “treasures for the toilet”

I discovered pooping on a toilet can be a challenge but I overcame it by throwing cheerios in the toilet.  I would tell my son poop on it make it drown.  You don’t have to be so “violent” I am sure you could paraphrase and get the same message across.  Making the cereal sink was a lot of fun. Peeing thru the cheerios never worked for me.

Never make bathroom time unhappy time.  The bathroom has to be a very happy memorable experience even if they go on the floor. AT least they made it to the bathroom.  You might mention good job you made it to the bathroom now next time lets make it in the toilet.  The “Peter Potty” was a great investment to teach my boy to eventually start peeing standing.

When ever my son had an accident in his diaper I would say aww poor “diego” or whoevers photo was on the diaper.  This seemed to make him realize it wasn’t nice.  Eventually I felt he grasped the concept so it was time to dare to put underwear on him. We went shopping.  I let him pick every underwear set he thought was cool.  We took them home and greeted every individual underwear, Hi Hulk, hi spiderman, hi spongebob, hi optimus prime, you get the idea. We made them our friends.  Every day in the morning we began with who do  you want to put on today.  He would pick his favorite for that day.  When he had an accident I said oh No poor spongebob you peed on him.  Now we can’t have him anymore.  We had a “funeral for that underwear and threw it away”  I kid you not in total we threw away 3 underwear and never again.  I know brutal or mean it worked. When he went 4 days without an accident we went back to the store and he got new underwear.  Guess what he picked the ones we had lost.  He has taken good care of his friends since. 

As for accidents at night he never has done that.  He has never liked the wet feeling and has always waited for mornings. I have friends whose kids went at night no matter what and the parents bought special mats that makes noises or something.

Just remember whether at home or in a public place you don’t loose your cool. You communicate to them oh i wish we made it to the toilet now your all wet that doesn’t feel good does it. Maybe next time we can make it.  One step ahead sells a sit down toilet that looks like a little kids briefcase.  You can take it with you everywhere you go. So if you need extra tools to invest in by all means invest in these things.  If you yell at your kids when they have accidents they may continue to have them because of all the pressure.

Lastly before you leave your home, always stop by the bathroom and say bathroom time. Before you leave a store  or begin to shop it wouldn’t hurt to have bathroom time.  When ever you go to a friends house with your child make a point to use the bathroom. If you can arriving and leaving do bathroom visits. Lastly before bedtime always always have them use the toilet and after that control liquid intake.  If they drink a lot of liquids take them to the bathroom again. Make it a point to go to bathrooms as often as possible until they learn to express on there own they need to use the bathroom.  

Lastly sitting on the toilet inward has a huge down side that you should know about.  To put a child inward involves them taking of shoes socks pants underware every single time.  It is a small sacrifice to pay for a year but it is worth it.   My son was fully potty trained day and night by 2years and half and they say boys take longer to train than girls.